SEI are relatively better at assessing the emotional atmosphere occurring in a group or during an activity than SLI.
When meeting someone knew, SEI are not as likely as SLI to perceive "getting to know somebody" as a special kind of activity. SEI know very well whey they are getting acquainted (i.e., what the purpose of the relationship is, be it business, personal, travel, etc.). SEI, in contrast with SLI, do not divide the process of getting acquainted into consecutive stages; rather SEI immediately establish the necessary emotional distance in contact and can regulate it if needed. To bridge the gap between poorly acquainted people in a group SEI amp up the emotional tone; this can be mutually experienced happiness or misfortune. The name and title of the person are of secondary relevance to SEI and their relationship with the other person.
SLI are more likely to believe in objective truths than SEI. That is, SLI are more likely to believe there is a correct or best way of doing something than SEI.
SEI are more inclined to believe there are relative truths than SLI. That is, this relativity is perceived by SEI as an extenuation of the differing beliefs, opinions, intentions, etc. of each person.
When something is perceived by SLI as being incorrect, they are more likely (than SEI) to tell the person who made the error what they did wrong and how to do it the right way. SLI are focused on who made the error and helping them to correct the mistake.
When something is perceived by SEI as being incorrect, they are more likely (than SLI) to ask why it was done that way. Instead of necessarily trying to correct the person who made the error, SEI attempt to understand the person's reason for their decision/action.
SLI tend to internally combine emotional exchanges with other activities rather than separating them out like SEI. E.g., SLI see having fun occurring simultaneously with other activities, such as work or even serious affairs. SEI are more likely to internally separate out having fun with other activities, although the two can be interchanged at a high frequency.
The "comparison and verification of concepts" is a more common phenomenon among SEI than SLI. This comparison not only concerns SEI methods, but also their understanding, terminology, etc. SEI are attuned to the fact that different people might understand and interpret different concepts and terms differently. They perceive terminology as well as actions of other people as part of the subjective concept inseparable from personal opinion, position, intent, etc. In contrast to SLI who perceive terminology as "objective," SEI understand personal differences behind terminology (this applies even to well established terms) and they attempt to compare and verify them.
SLI are not as inclined to compare and verify concepts as SEI. SLI assume that these can have only one unique interpretation (the "correct" interpretation), and SLI often do not think about the fact that the other person may be interpreting them differently. Much more than SEI, SLI apply concepts such as "objective reality," "unequivocal facts," and de-emphasize concepts; SLI consider that they know the "right" way of doing things, how something "truly is," etc.
SLI are more likely (than SEI) to use special rituals or other culturally accepted formalities when forming relationships with others. What that means is that the emotional proximity and relationship status for SLI be more externally predetermined. Additionally, SLI generally progress in relationships through stages, and therefore are more familiar with these stages than SEI. SLI tend to be more linear in their relationship progression than SEI, and SLI assign importance to the formalities of recognizing the start and end to each of these stages.
SEI are more likely than SLI to perceive and distinguish themselves primarily through personal qualities. SEI focus on individualism more than SLI.
SEI attitude towards a specific person (more so than SLI) is based on their personal characteristics (authority, intellect, personal achievements, etc.) SEI recognize superiority of certain individuals drawing from their personal qualities
SLI, more than SEI, frequently perceives and defines themselves and other people through group associations. SLI focus on collectivism over individualism.
When SLI form opinions of others, these opinions are formed under the influence of their attitude towards the group to which the person belongs. To SLI, it is incomprehensible how it is possible to belong to two opposing groups at the same time:, i.e., "you're either with us, or with them and against us."
SLI are often able to form quicker opinions of others they have just met than SEI. This is based on the ability of SLI to draw conclusions about the person based on the groups the person belongs to; SEI are more reluctant to make these inferences.
SEI are more likely (than SLI) to seek new and novel experiences rather than returning to something already lived through. They will generally only re-read a book, re-watch a movie, or revisit the same place if they have forgotten it or are hoping to learn something new from it.
SLI are more likely than SEI to use "emotional anchors" that resonate with their internal emotional condition. These emotional anchors could be a book, a movie, a place, a song, etc. SLI use these anchors to strengthen their inner emotional state and thus will repeat the experience: e.g., re-reading a book, re-watching a movie, continually going back to a place to experience the emotions associated with it.
SEI pay more particular attention to aspects of a situation or plan that are insufficient or lacking. This can be interpreted by others as SEI having a negative assessment of various situations and events (.e.g, "the glass is half empty). On the other hand, SLI pay more attention to what is actually present in a situation, and this can be interpreted as an affirmative or positive manifestation of the surrounding world, situations, possibilities, and prospects (e.g. "the glass is half full").
When assessing an option or available choice, SLI tend to focus more on how the choice could benefit them (what it would potentially yield) than SEI would. On the other hand, SEI would be more cognizant of the potential risks and potential losses that may accompany the decision that SLI may unconsciously minimize.
SEI are more likely to make decisions based on logical reasons than SLI, who are more likely to make decisions based on their own feelings.
SLI are often better at solving and minimizing interpersonal problems, where as SEI often struggle understanding them.
SEI are often more interested in studying systems, structures, and functionality than SLI.
SLI tend to prefer using persuasion as a means of convincing others to do something, where as SEI prefer to use argumentation as a means of convincing others.
SLI are more vulnerable to logical manipulation than SEI. However SEI in contrast, are often more vulnerable to emotional or ethical manipulations than SLI.
SEI place greater value on their interests than SLI. For example, SEI will maintain high levels of energy and focus on an interest they value, even deprioritizing their other resources to maintain the interest. For example, SEI may spend a large amount of energy on an interest they value, often to the detriment of their time, sleep, relationships, money, etc.
SLI place greater value on their resources than SEI. For SLI, resources like their money, time, sleep, etc., fall into their "inner personal space," and the SLI will be more likely to deprioritize an interest if it starts to drain these resources too much.
When developing a plan of action or process, SLI tend to see themselves as "within the process"; they are immersed in it. Often because of this, they have more difficulty managing several plans at once. On the other hand, SEI tend to place themselves "outside of the process"; they dissociate from it. For them the process or situation is something external from themselves.
When working on a project, SEI experience more discomfort (than SLI) if the project does not have a clearly delineated end-goal or result. This happens because SEI have more difficulty monitoring and understanding how the project is developing than SLI because they are outside of the process.
When conversing, SLI types are inclined to communicate in the form of monologues, where each party has "its turn." Because of that they subconsciously attempt to transform a dialogue into a series of monologues. Conversely, SEI tend to prefer more of a question and answer style format.
